For gay women interested in dating other like-minded women, being able to interpret the right signals can make all the difference between success and failure in dating. There are certain subtle cues that a lesbian exhibits when she is interested in another woman.
While there is no definite way to know if a lesbian has the hots for you, there are certain signals to look out for. Lesbians or bi women may bring up an LGBTQ discussion or even reveal their orientation. It could be one sign that she is interested in you.
The most obvious signal would be that of eye contact. When a lesbian fancies a woman, she will try to make eye contact frequently. If you look in her direction, you will find her looking at you. It could be a sign that she is interested in you. However, consider the context, e.g., in a workplace, it could just be normal, whereas, in a bar, it is a sign that she fancies you.
If you notice any physical moves to get closer or try to be near you, this is another signal. This is seen in the following instances.
If you find her regularly trying to engage you, then it could be possible she has a romantic interest. In-office, when there is any information or directive that could be shared by email, she instead chooses to come and speak to you. You find here at all the social events you attend, including the same gym, etc. All of these are indirect signs that she could have a romantic interest in you. However, if it is a colleague from the office, you need to follow your instinct is this is just being friendly, co-incidence or something more.
More signs of her having a romantic interest
Another obvious sign is when she finds humor in all your jokes. This is more so when you know the joke is not that amusing, but she finds it funny enough. This is a good sign that she has more than a friendly interest in you. When she tries to touch you, it is another sign of her interest. E.g. She will find a place to sit beside you, will casually touch your hand or pat your knee during a conversation, etc. Her making physical contact is a clear sign she is romantically inclined.
When he keeps complimenting you on how good you look, remarks what a charming smile you have among other compliments of your physical attributes, she could be harboring a physical interest in you. However, if she compliments you on your fashion sense or other material things, it could just be friendly. You need to determine if she is generally flirtatious by nature or if she is just with you.
Some more signals showing her interest:
Watch her lips: Most women, when attracted to someone, tend to lick, bite, or pucker their lips when they are around them. It is a clear sign that they are interested in you.
All the mentioned signs indicate that a woman is interested in another woman. Lesbians can show their interest in other women through body language or even may choose to be direct in some instances. However, with body language, you need to be mindful of the context you are dealing with them in, e.g., in the workplace may as colleagues or in a social setting as someone you meet for the first time.