You might have heard the saying that seduction is an art form of sorts. The good news is you need not be born a Casanova if you are open to learning how to master the art of seduction. Being a great seducer is all about having the confidence, prior preparation and be willing to take it slow. This is not something where you can force a woman, so if you are patient and play your cards well enough, you will be able to seduce most women you set your eyes and mind on.
Slow and steady: Meeting and seducing a woman takes time, so be prepared for the long game. Do not expect to work miracles and entice her into bed in a jiffy. It is well worth the wait, and building up the sexual tension along the way adds to charm when you make her your conquest.
First impressions matter: Learn to be smartly turned out if you want to leave a great first impression. Do not expect to be scruffy and in sweatpants and tees to win her over. Dressing well will leave a positive impression, so dress smartly.
Well-groomed: Along with dressing for the occasion, remember to be well-groomed. If she spent hours looking good, she would expect the same of you. From having a shower to dabbing on the cologne and having well-combed hair, the importance of grooming cannot be overstated.
You need to motivate yourself, especially if you are the bashful type that you can pull it off. Talk to yourself and boost your self-confidence as it is the confidence that makes seduction a success.
Select the right ambiance: When you go on a date and intend to seduce your date, get the mood right. The choice of location should be intimate with preferably just the two of you close together, and no one else in the vicinity. Dating her in an intimate setting will surely help in the seduction game.
Focus on her talking: Women like men that listen to them intently, so be all ears when she talks. Focus all your attention on her, as if she is the only person around. Instead of smiling and shaking your head in agreement, ask her questions to show you are intently listening to every word that comes out of her mouth.
No awkward silences: Make sure the conversation flows back and forth with no long awkward silences that could spoil the tempo. Keep a few topics and questions in mind in case there is a point when she goes silent so that the conversation continues.
Look at her body language: Read up a bit about a woman's body language when she is interested in a man if you find her appearing nervous, try to make her relax in your company. The better you read the non-verbal cues she gives off, the better are the chances of you successfully seducing her.
Chivalry works well: Remember to be chivalrous when she is around, as that always works. Women like men that behave like gentlemen, so get that bit right. From opening doors to pulling up her chair, good manners will help to wind your way into her heart.
Establish steady eye-contact: One of the most important things to do when seducing a woman is to establish steady eye contact. Make sure you look at her directly, especially when she is peaking and do not avert your gaze, which will seem as if you are shy. Match her gaze when she talks and make sure to smile frequently.
Be confident in your speech: Having the ability to have a confident conversation impresses a woman a long way. Speak about things you are well versed with, and she will enjoy listening to you speak.
Compliment her: If you want to appear charming and sweep her off her feet, be generous with the compliments. Women love flattery, and if it is genuine, she will enjoy every single positive word you say about her.
Having a woman in front of you when you are having a conversation and trying to seduce her can be quite difficult, so imagine if you try to do it only with words or text. Texting or sending messages and chatting has become commonplace with smartphones. If you get across the right message, you can win her over, and if by mistake, you manage to convey a message that is not appropriate, it could have her avoid you.
A few tips that can come in handy when you plan to try to win her affection by texting are:
Keep it simple: Once you get her number and are texting her for the first time, keep it simple and short and sweet. Mention the conversation both had when you asked for her number and keep the messaging about how she is doing. Ensure that your messages end in a way that she is compelled to give you a reply. That way, you will be able to have regular communication with her through messaging.
Do not reply instantly: Never reply the moment you receive a message from her as it will seem you are desperate. Play the waiting game and message her after some time, preferably after 30 minutes to an hour. This will build up the anticipation with her wondering why you did not reply after receiving her message.
Be funny: Women enjoy conversing with men with a sense of humor, so be funny in your messages. Send her funny emojis or MMS messages that will make her laugh. She will enjoy chatting with you and look forward to receiving your messages.
Gradually get flirty: Once you are well acquainted with each other, get flirty. Send her naughty messages about thinking about her and how attractive she is. The more you compliment her on her physical traits and show you are attracted to her physically, the more interested she will become. Flatter whenever possible, and it will go a long way!
Seducing a girl or a woman is not rocket science. All it needs is perseverance, patience, and a definite game plan as to how to go about it, and you will taste the fruits of success. Just do not rush it and play it cool even if you are extremely eager for physical intimacy with her.